When my father died I repeated to myself over and over, It’s better to have loved and lost than it is to have never loved at all.
Sobbing, crying, blubbering. Thirteen.
When I lost my first boyfriend to excessive nonchalance, I repeated to myself, over and over, It’s better to have loved and lost than it is to have never loved at all.
Sobbing, crying, blubbering. Breaking out in stress-induced hives. Twenty.
When I lost my second boyfriend to two coasts, separate worlds and different generations, I repeated to myself, over and over, It’s better to have loved and lost than it is to have never loved at all.
Sobbing, crying, blubbering. Terrified, alone, suicidal. Twenty-four.
When I lost you, to things I have yet to understand, I am repeating to myself, over and over, It’s better to have loved and lost than it is to have never loved at all.
I am sobbing. I am crying. Blubbering. Confused, shaking. Self-destructive. Twenty-six.
Insomnia eats at my mind. My therapist says that my body is being devoured by the withdrawal from the separation of yours. My mind understands. My heart has not. I am shivering. Feverous. Shaking.
It takes two minutes after I wake up for all of me to remember. For one minute and fifty-nine seconds every morning I have to convince my mind it was not a bad dream. It is a depressive reality.
I am no longer yours, and you are no longer mine.
I walk into our old home. A graveyard of memories from our best hits. The phantoms of your hands follow every square inch. I remember the first day we moved in. The mattress on the floor of the master. Fucking in the foyer. The two staircases, the rooftop, the shower, the floors.
The billion-and-one kisses. The bear hugs. The fleeting touches. The hand holding. The Bhuddists believe we live many lifetimes. I want to spend a million of them under the blanket fort of crocheted stars. In the stillness of your arms, the assuredness of your forehead kisses.
I want to remember us by that night, and none of the ones after. I was blessed by the polarity of your love. Two suns in a singular universe. Fights and fucking that shook the neighborhood, quivering galaxies.
I have never felt such vivid tenderness, sweetness, such eager rawness. I have never felt so connected yet so distant.
I loved you to distraction. I wish we could’ve loved to absolution.
I have made a million-and-one mistakes, but I am so grateful for the us suspended under the blanket of stars. The Off-white rosé, the polaroid camera, the market charcuterie.
I have made a million-and-one mistakes, but it’s better to have loved and lost than it is to have never loved at all.
6 thoughts on “Coming undone”
I hope things get better for you Jenny ❤
I’m someone who has read your writing in the dark and admired you for years, while at the same time trying to grow into the woman I dream to be.
I know sharing love with others is important, but never forget that the love you hold for yourself and the peace you find in your own soul is so crucial, regardless of who is or isn’t in your life. I know you know this, but I also know that sometimes “knowing” isn’t enough to make things better. So I hope that you are able to feel these things again soon. Every person we meet and love teach us valuable lessons and shape us into becoming better people. Even if they aren’t forever, the pieces of them you carry with you are.
Thank you so much Athena. We are all just a collection of experiences and I am blessed for the ones that I have been allowed
Powerful words, hope the best for you.
hope the best for you too x
Nice to meet you too!! You got great stories. Sorry for your lost from your dad, I hope your dad follows god. I read all of it, this should be as a Novel book just saying!! And I hope I could get autograph when I buy your book!!
Well, always be happy, always stay away from guys bcuz virus. And be safe!! I wish I could take you out to eat sushi!!!
thank you 🙂